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Friday, July 18, 2008

Do Kenyan men like women who watch porn?




Love and Relationship Headaches


It all happened quite by accident and she suddenly found herself in a very difficult situation in a relationship she highly valued and wanted very much to work out. After all she was not getting any younger.

Her boyfriend had come over and she had left him playing around with her laptop as she took a quick bath. The minute she came out of the bathroom she knew that there was something amiss. It was the way he looked at her. Was that a look of disgust on his face?

“You mean you watch porn?” he had asked accusingly? Somehow the guy had found a few clips she thought she had hidden well in some folders in her computer.

So what do most Kenyan men really think of women who watch porn? I interviewed a number of them and to be honest was shocked at what I found out.

Many single Kenyan women these days regularly watch porn. They may not readily admit it to their guy but it is widely available on the World Wide Web. And people just watch it sometimes. Many are attracted to it by curiosity, others for a myriad of other reasons that will be the subject of another article here at a later date.

Interestingly my research tells me that most of them are forced to tell a fib if the man in their life asks them the question directly; do you watch porn on the web? In many ways this is very disturbing and stressful to many women because the truth is that generally they feel very guilty when they have to tell their boyfriends lies about personal stuff. At least most of them do. But then who wants to end their relationship on such a note. Imagine confessing to your girlfriends one day the real reason why you and him drifted apart; it was because I like watch porn occasionally. Yikes!!!

The truth is that most Kenyan men surveyed are uncomfortable about their future wife watching porn. And the most ridiculous thing of all is that most of these men who feel this way, watch plenty of porn themselves. How hypocritical!!

Jonas a man in his early 30s says: “It really depends. If she’s my girlfriend I will not be comfortable at all knowing that she delights in watching porn. However if she’s my wife, no problem because we will be watching it together.”

Surprises never cease when one is seriously looking into human nature because when I started this research project I was sure that a majority of men really don’t mind their girl being a porn addict let alone an occasional viewer.

It turns out that most Kenyan men despite the image they may try to portray sometimes are very conservative. One single guy studying in an American university told this writer that he was thinking of dumping his girlfriend whom everybody though he would marry, simply because she was a Catholic. The man’s parents are Pentecostals, although he hardly goes to church himself. I was shocked. You can never assume anything about these Kenyan men, can you?

Only a mere 5 percent of the men I asked this question genuinely did not mind if their women were porn addicts. One man told me bluntly that “chics are human beings, NOT robots.”

I am hoping that we can carry this survey a little further here in this blog. Do tell us what you think about this crazy topic.

Incidentally people also need to know that porn can be highly addictive and if one is not in a relationship can have negative long term effects that may even affect and hinder a woman from having a healthy relationship. Just as it often does the same to many Kenyan men who are porn addicts.

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7 comments:

Anonymous said...

Why would anyone want to watch porn?

Anonymous said...

anon @ 2:57,

Are you a man or a woman? You sound like a frustrated man.

I am a woman and I watch porn wen I feel like it, once in a long time. I would never tell a man that and you can see why from the comment made by anon @ 2:57

Anonymous said...

I dont see whats wrong with someone watching the stuff as long as they dont get bwild after that!

Anonymous said...

You will be shocked at what this hypocrites do in their bedrooms!! Men want a virgin out and a whore in the bedroom. Let no one cheat you, They love the whore more, so ladies, watch porn and be a whore, you will keep him longer. Do you want a good name (to the outside world) or fun for life? Choose!!!!

Anonymous said...

I agree with Anon @ 2.42AM. . .i think the naive virginal babes are a no no. . .women who watch porn are a bit more appealing especially if its not a glaring fact . . . They should also watch out not to come out as addicts. . .it presses the insecurity button in a man's psyche

osewe said...

You're kidding me?Men, that aint nothing!That's part of being in the mood!I think tiz an educative tool on how one should enjoy sex and probably conduct themselves during and after sexual encounters,ya'll know what i'm saying?In short,let's discourage shyness in women and men alike,by encouraging not only watching pono,but by going a notch higher-use of sexual toys across the board.
Thank you.
osewe
United states.

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