“Love”…with an Eye on the Prize!

I don’t refute the claim that there is true love (and I know many people who are beneficiaries of this bug). But I know there are people who take advantage of people’s feelings in the pretext of “loving” them.

There are some women (and men) who would give their eye teeth to get hooked to a rich white man or woman with a long-term aim of settling abroad. This is very rife in Africa (particularly in Kenya).

The allure of the West has turned into an anthem to every Tom, Dick and Harry who wants to bid farewell to penury and (beggary). Many young people have the notion that if they go to the UK or the USA, their lives will change drastically (for the better!)

Most of them have found out that there is no easy way of hastening their steps to the $ and the £, than waltzing their way into the lives of male and female (white) tourists in the hope that they will eventually be whisked to the lands that they have always desired to travel to (and hopefully settle in).

Getting a Visa to countries such as the UK and the USA can prove hard because of the exhaustive (and equally exhausting!) procedures that are involved. But this is no hurdle to these gold digging young men who could traverse the most expansive ocean to get to the lands (and the money & opportunities) they aspire.

They tend to believe that falling in love with their white friends and getting married to them is a sure fire way of circumventing this obstacle. {But is it a solution, really?}

You’d care to see what some of the young men get married to: some very old, (moneyed, yes!), scrawny hags that would pass for anyone’s grandmother or better still, great grandmother!

I call such kind of love: “Love… with an Eye on the Prize!”

Passion, love and anger

Everybody envies lovebirds. In fact most people have never really been in love and wonder what it is like believing that it is a pleasant experience.

However those in love describe it as bitter-sweet. Meaning that there is the bitter side of it and even the deadly.

Passion can drive people to extreme lengths.

Take the case of John and Anne. The two were in love. It was love that bordered on the crazy because they spent every single moment they could snatch together. Now with love also comes possessiveness. And with possessiveness often come jealousy. Now John started having nightmares than Anne was seeing somebody else secretly.

Finally he blurted it out to Anne one day. Now the problem here is that Anne had an explosive temper and John was very proud. The kind of proud man who would rather die than lose face. And so what was supposed to be a very minor thing blew up into a major disagreement. Anne felt that John was nuts to imagine that she was unfaithful to him when they spent so much time together. Surely where would she get time to even talk to another man? On the other hand John felt that if it was not true then surely Anne would not have been so angry.

The two love birds stormed off in anger. John had expected Anne to soothingly stroke his ego and calm his fears. Instead Anne had exploded in a way that he had not seen before. What followed was a disaster. Anne was so angry that she went off and slept with somebody else. In her rage she told herself that if she had been accused she might as well make the falsehood true. She deeply regretted her actions immediately it was over. But it was too late. As they say, Hasira ni hasara.

John sulked for days and could not think straight. His work suffered and when he was called in by the boss to explain himself, he exploded and started shouting at his employer. This was no government department and he was fired on the spot. To date John and Anne hate each other so much that if they were the only two people left on earth, they would still not speak to each other.

In another case this couple were deeply in love and sadly the woman worked in a far off town. She went out one night and got drunk and slept with somebody else. Sex is powerful and she started having feelings for her one night stand. She could not bear the guilt and broke off her relationship with the man who was so hurt that he quickly got married on the rebound to somebody he had no feelings for. Naturally the consequences of his actions were bound to catch up with him sooner or later and they did.

Oh yes, love and passion can be very deadly and very damaging

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Secret of success that should not be a secret

The most important investment you will ever make in your small business is in yourself. It is rather obvious that the more skills and knowledge you have the better your business will do.

This is why it is very puzzling that most entrepreneurs never bother to enhance and improve their skills and knowledge. How many small business owners will you find at Bookpoint book shop on Moi avenue looking for a good book to help them improve their businesses? Most will say that they don’t have the time. And so they will continue doing the same old things that don’t work expecting different results. We are clearly told that that is the definition of insanity.

Yet the World Wide Web has made things even easier. You can get any information you want online and for free. However a word of caution. You will need to be methodical and have a plan of how you are going to fish out the information you are looking for.

Naturally high on your list of priorities is improving your marketing skills because your ability to find customers will have a very immediate and direct bearing on the survival prospects of your small business.

Actually the truth is that to be able to get all the information you need for free online, will take you lots of patience. And yet as they say time is money. The solution of course is to purchase specialized information that you are sure fits your situation exactly. This is important because there are some things which may work in the US but will flop badly in Kenya. So what you really need is a Kenyan expert who has a track record of success.

The benefits are numerous and include the fact that you will end up saving a lot of time and focusing on your exact needs. That is exactly how folks are using the Worldwide Web to transform their small businesses from struggling mode to big success.

Why not take the time to enroll for an online course that will transform the way you market your business. It is being conducted by a Kenyan marketing expert who has had lots of great successes on the Kenyan market. On enrollment you will receive daily lessons that you can apply immediately to your business. It is a 2 month course (40 lessons) and you will receive each day’s lesson via email. You can also consult with the resource person via email mobile telephone (both networks) and landline as well. He can only accept a small class at a time so register Now. It will cost you only Kshs 1,500 for the full course. You can start right away and pay later when you see for yourself just how useful it is to your business. accepted.

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Excuses men use to dump their girl friends

Men are strange animals. Essentially they are animals.

Sample this. After a relationship that has lasted a long period of time, a man decides to end it. There are many different reasons why a man can decide to do this. Maybe he has seen somebody else he likes more. Or he is just plain bored with his woman and would like to “free himself” to move on.

Whatever the reason, instead of telling the poor girl that he would like to end the relationship, he starts fishing around for an excuse to end it. Usually it ends up in some sort of accusation. He will say that he does not trust her anymore or that he has evidence that she has had an affair.

This usually works like a dream on unsuspecting women because they will focus o the accusation and it will never cross their mind that the guy is juts fishing around for an excuse. I even know of men who have gone as far as setting up their girlfriends with their men friends and then they turn up right on cue and storm out of the bar or social place saying that they have now seen enough evidence of their girl friend’s infidelity.

Women should especially look out for these tell-tale signs of a man sabotaging a relationship deliberately when they bring up the topic of their long term prospects or marriage. That is when they will see wonders. Some men will tell their girl fiends that their parents don’t like them, when this is a lie. Other times they will claim that their relatives never wanted a woman who is from a different tribe. As if one marries a woman for their relatives.

This is a very serious matter, but I have to admit that in my time I have seen hilarious excuses that men have used to end relationships. Here are some;

- “You don’t know how to cook chapattis and my mum says…..”

- “You are too thin and my parents are wondering if you have Aids.”

- “That kid you got pregnant with in school, my family does not want outside blood in the home.”

- “I love you but my mum says your complexion is too dark.”

- “I love you but you are a PNU supporter.”

- “I love you but you support ODM.”

- “I love you but you earn more money than me and my mum says…”

- “My big brother doesn’t like you.”

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Most people don’t know this common reason for business failure

Chances are very high that you will read this article and recognize yourself. That is you are the creative type.

It is a known fact that most entrepreneurs are the creative type. Creative people are great at coming up with new things and new ideas. However they have one major flaw. And that is the get bored very easily. They are not the type of people to keep up successfully with routine repetitive things. This is the reason why big businessmen and women thrive, simply because they have the resources to employ others to take care of the dull stuff.

Now the big problem is when a small business is starting out without much in terms of capital and resources. Many businesses that had great potential have failed in this way. The founder hardly realizes that it is the daily repetitive, boring things that have to be done over and over again that make their enterprises successful.

This is also very true for any online business as well as offline businesses.

Chances are very high that the only thing that stands between you and tremendous success is you bracing yourself to do all the repetitive boring stuff that will lift your business to success in due time.

It is a good idea to start with the chores you hate the most earl in the morning and then reward yourself with the stuff that you enjoy, when you are done.

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Signs That She Wants You

These days there are all sorts of so-called experts literally coming out of the woodwork who are making all sorts of claims and selling their books and information to millions.

Before we examine some of the most controversial of these claims it is useful to look into the reasons why mostly men seem to be so interested in reading the thoughts of their dates.

Evidence suggests that the gap between men and women is widening. Men are getting busier (sometimes watching porn on the web) and as a result are hardly interested in investing the time or being patient enough to learn about the women in their lives. So what they are basically looking for are quick-fixes and one night stands.

Some of these so-called experts claims that if a lady you are dating starts to circle the top of the glass slowly with her fingers, then it is a clear sign that they are interested in sex with you as soon as possible.

They add that if on the first date a lady holds your arm unconsciously, then it means that she is interested in sex soon. However if she holds you anywhere on your legs it means that she wants sex on that same day.

Over to you dear readers, what do you think?

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Form Simple Habits To Make Serious Money

Did you know that what makes up your life is your daily routine? Which means that for you to be successful you simply have to find the right daily routine, make it a habit and your success is assured.

Admittedly the big challenge to succeed in any business is therefore to find the right daily routine or the right habits to form. This is not always easy, however when you do find your daily routine, you should make sure that you stick to it and sooner or later the results will start to show. Always remember that it is very rare to get immediate results in anything. You need to be patient. Success takes time.

Let me give you an interesting example. I have a friend who started his business while he was still working for somebody elsewhere. He made special arrangements with his employer to be reporting to work at 9am and leaving at 6pm instead of 5 pm like the others. He was a valued and very productive employee so his boss had no problem accepting his proposal. What he did every morning was report to his business office at 7 pm work for 50 mins and then use the remaining hour making about 2 sales calls. He did that until it became a habit, almost second nature. Now you might not think a mere 2 sales calls a day is a big deal but from this routine the man today has a multi-million shilling business.

So look at your business carefully today and come up with a daily routine and then just make sure that you stick to it. You will be amazed at the results.

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Are you lovesick?

Have you ever been through that bitter-sweet experience of being in love?

It’s quite something. You cannot stop thinking about the other person. They are on your mind the whole day and the whole night too. When you wake up they are the first person you think about. At night you go to sleep with them on your mind. And whenever you meet three tends to be a crowd. You just want to be left alone with each other. It is like nobody else exists in the universe.

Many times, this is simply infatuation which wears off fairly quickly. But what about if it is true love?

It is interesting how most people spend most of their lives dreaming about a true love coming into their lives without giving much thought to the complications that usually accompany that true love. In the end, the lucky few who find love end up with many regrets because of the heartaches and sheer torture that comes with it.

For instance if you are separated by long distances, you really feel the pain that cannot be quenched by long telephone conversations or anything else. Other times due to your partners’ circumstances chances are that your family members will be strongly opposed to you having any relationship with them. Close friends may even strongly advice you against continuing the relationship.

It is interesting how virtually every tale of true love that triumphs is always one of overcoming many obstacles and difficulties before the two people who love each other so much can be together and live happily ever after.

Good luck to all you love-sick folks out there. There is no known cure for true love other than being together for better or for worse, in sickness or in health.

And to those who have not found love yet, think of the complications and difficulties that come with it, the next time you feel lonely.

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Overcoming Resistance From Would-be Buyers

Everybody knows that no enterprise anywhere can survive for long without sales. And yet we also know that nobody likes to be sold to.

Just picture this for a minute. You need to buy something and you have made a decision in your mind to buy it. So one day when you are leaving the office, you meet this hawker pushing that item in your face and shouting out a cheap price, urging you to buy. What will your reaction be? Chances are that you will shake your head and refuse to buy. But why? You need the item and besides you are ready to buy, but still you resist.

This happens all the time and it is something that anybody in business must know and understand. The minute you look like you are selling something the natural reaction you will get from most people is resistance.

What this means is that the biggest secret to successful selling is NOT to look like you are selling. Actually the minute you can penetrate this “barrier” that we all surround ourselves with, the minute somebody tries to sell us something, it will become very easy for you to sell anything and your business will make sale and after sale and become very successful. It is really as simple as that.

Overcoming the natural resistance that people have to being sold to is even more important online. This is the reason why the most effective way of selling anything online is NOT by advertising it. The way to do it is by providing useful information.

For instance you may want to purchase a new cell phone but you need one with a good in-built camera. And so you go to Google and do a search for a cell phone with camera and you type the word “Kenya” at the end of the keywords you use. Let us say you end up at this site where they give you the information you are looking for. You read it and at the bottom of the page there is the price that the cell phone is being sold at and information on how to order. Chances are that you will buy that phone. Notice that there is no resistance here because nobody tried to sell you anything, they simply provided you with the information.

And it gets even more interesting. It is possible to provide people with interesting information about a product they have never heard of and chances are that you will be able to easily sell it to them. Find a way of doing this effectively online and you will make some serious money.

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Lady Beware: What Type Are You To Your Man?

Ladies should be extremely careful not to be fooled by any man because to a man there are only four types of women and you must fit into one of the four categories.

1. There are those women that a man just wants to sleep with and nothing more.

2. Then there are those women a man would deeply desire to be the mother of his children.

3. Still there are those women a man would love to be seen with to impress his friends and foes, and nothing more.

4. And finally there are those women that on very rare occasions some men fall hopelessly in love with and they stop thinking straight like a normal man.

Don’t hold your breath to the fourth type of woman because it is a very rare thing indeed.

So where do you fall? Many women fall into the first category and are fooled into believing that there is something more in the relationship. What you need to remember is that a man hunting you out will rarely reveal his true intentions unless you are already physically attracted to him and he notices.

To be put into the second category is also not easy. In this regard most men are extremely conservative and sadly will often take advice from close friends when making this decision. That makes it a wee bit difficult for you if you met at some bar in Nairobi. In neighboring Tanzania for instance where a man meets a woman is extremely important and most men believe it is crazy to marry a woman you met at a bar, no matter how beautiful and nice she is. Very old fashioned and the kind of thinking that comes from two centuries ago, I know. But sadly that is the reality.

Many women are unknowingly in the third category. They are like a new car, designed to impress and lift up the image of a man and nothing more. These women get delighted when they are introduced all over the place and mistakenly assume that this means that a long-term relationship is in the offing. In a few cruel instances the man will even introduce them as their future wife. Don’t be fooled.

We will not even discuss he fourth category because it is easier to find Diamonds in Kenya than it is to find true love, but I do know a man who recently proudly told me that the woman in his life fits into all four categories. Some dreamer I guess, kwani what kind of woman is that?

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Small Business Opportunity Laptop Ideas

Probably one of the best small business opportunity laptop Ideas involves buying and selling.

Best Small Business Opportunity Laptop Idea: Buy And Sell Your Way To Success
The reason why any business involving buying and selling has to be one of the best small business opportunity laptop Ideas should be pretty obvious. While the net has turned the world into a small village, it is still very difficult to identify local needs and opportunities without physically visiting a place.

No matter how good your contacts on the ground are, more often than not they will not be able to "see" the small business opportunities you seek even if it were to hit them on the face. Your small business can thrive tremendously by you traveling personally to seek opportunities even as your reliable laptop ensures that the day to day running of your site proceeds as usual. And what's more you may not need to visit a place more than once if you make a point of establishing local contacts in the particular industry or trade that your web based business focuses on.

Buying and selling from various different regions and countries is one of the best small business opportunity ideas that any entrepreneur can fully exploit with the help of a good reliable laptop computer.

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Is Your Small Business In Trouble?

If you are running a small business that is now in trouble, chances are that you are thinking furiously about diversification and are about to launch a different product quite possibly in another field altogether. Diversification is a highly favored strategy for many.

But hold on a minute. Is that the right way to go?

Think about it for a minute. The sun is very powerful but because it spreads its’ rays over a wide area, its’ rays are mostly harmless. Compare that to a laser beam which is many times weaker than the sun. However because all the energy is focused in one place, it is able to cut through metal and even something as hard as a diamond.

There is a great secret behind the power of focusing and there are thousands of stories to be told.

We all know the Coca Cola and Pepsi, two keen competitors in the world soft drinks market. Interestingly Coca Cola has always been the more profitable company. Many experts attribute this to its’ sharp focus on soft drinks. Pepsi on the other hand is a very diversified company that is in many different businesses, many of them are supposed to compliment it’s soft drinks business, like its’ heavy investments in the manufacture of snacks.

Carefully study any business you care to think of and you will quickly realize that companies that have a focus on their core line of business or niche tend to do much better and survive much longer in the market than businesses that have diversified all over the place.

The way to save your small business is to re-focus within the narrow field that your business covers. The solution may be in going for an even tinier segment of the market you are kindly targeting. Less is actually more because you will end up being a specialist in a world that is filled with generalists.

Look at it this way, it is much better to be a big fish in a small pond than it is to be a small fish in the big cruel ocean.

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